我的经历我不认为是完美的,所以才想让你拥有更完美的人生。那怎样才算是完美呢,至少你的生活是你想要的样子。
我相信你这样做一定有你的道理的,只要不违法,尽管放手一搏,老爸全力支持。不用过多担心,我也会像我爸妈对我那样,给你做好坚强的后盾。家,永远是你屹立不倒的避风港。这样做不为别的,只希望你这一生活得幸福、快乐。
钱真的很重要吗?是,钱真的很重要。但如果你把赚钱放在第一位去做事的话,你多半是会失败的。现在这个时代,最不愁的就是赚钱,可以说有你多到想不到的赚钱渠道。只要你肯努力,不怕辛苦,光是在工地也能让你活得不错。前提,你得先获得快乐。不到万不得已的时候,千万不要把哪个行业赚钱作为你择业的标准。
你是我的孩子,也是我最大的希望。斗胆,爸爸就拿你做个实验。爸爸希望你能收获快乐且难忘的童年,勇敢的靠自己走出人生的每一步,找寻到自己喜欢的领域,研究真正感性的东西。我不想给你施加压力,但也不是放任不管。这一路上,我会为你做好指引,聆听你的心声,做你一辈子最值得信赖的好朋友。
一万小时定律中说,你对自己喜欢的事足够付出了,即使你是个彻头彻尾的大笨蛋也能精通它,当然也能靠它来赚钱。我很喜欢的一位“未来导演”曾在他的视频中这样说道,永远不要让自己的父母告诉自己,你要去做什么。也永远不要让别人否定你,你不能去做什么。
最后,我们一起听听Alan Wilson Watts在一次题为What Do I Desire的演讲中是怎样说的:
What would youlike to do if money were no object? Well it’s so amazing as the result of ourkind of educational system. Crowds of students say, well, we’d like to bepainters. We’d like to be poets. We’d like to be writers. But as everybodyknows you can’t earn any money that way. When we finally got down to somethingwhich the individual says he really wants to do. I will say to him. You dothat! And forget the money! Because if you say that getting the money is themost important thing. You will spend your life completely wasting your time. Youwill be doing things you don’t like doing in order to go on living that is togo on doing things you don’t like doing. Which is STUPID! Better to have ashort life that is full of which you like doing than a long life spent in amiserable way. And after all, if you do really like what you’re doing, it doesn’treally matter what it is! You can eventually turn it…uh you could become amaster of it. It’s the only way of becoming the master of something to bereally with it. And then you will be able to get a good fee for whatever it is.But it’s absolutely stupid to spend your time doing things you don’t like. Inorder to go on spending things you don’t like, doing things you don’t like andto teach our children to follow the same track. Here we are doing is we arebringing up children and educating them to live the same sort of lives we areliving. In order they may justify themselves and find satisfaction in life bybringing up their children to bring up their children to do the same thing. Soit’s all wretch and no vomit. It never gets there! And so therefore, it’s so importantto consider this question. What do I desire?
如果不考虑钱,你们想做什么?我们教育制度下的产物着实令人瞠目结舌。很多学生会说,我想成为画家,我想成为诗人,我想成为作家。但是每个人都知道这些职业根本不能让你赚到钱。当我的学生跟我说,他真的很想做某件事时,我会鼓励他说,去做吧!别考虑钱!因为如果你把赚钱当作最重要的事,你会终其一生,完全是在浪费时间。为了维持生计,一遍又一遍做着你所厌烦的事。这简直太愚蠢了!人生还是短一点好,因为这样你就会明白,与其过一种漫长无趣的痛苦生活,不如选择短暂且充满乐趣的人生。毕竟如果你真正爱你所做的事情,无论它是什么都不重要。最终你肯定会成为这个领域的大师,因为精于某件事的唯一途径便是你真心热爱它。然后自然而然的,你会得到它给你带来的美好价值。真正愚蠢的是,把时间白白浪费在你不喜欢做的事情上,然后再教导我们的孩子循着我们的老路走。我们现在在做什么呢?把孩子抚养大,然后教育他们遵照我们选择过的活法去活着,让孩子们像自己一样安稳,过千篇一律的生活来证明自己教育的正确性,并从中获得人生的满足感,而这是我们一代又一代人造成的,永远也不会停止!所以,回到最重要的问题。我想要的是什么?