让人舒服是人与人相处的最佳境界，不管是朋友之间，还是亲人之间。厉害的人比较懂得和人相处，化问题于无形，不动声色就处理完了事情，不会给别人造成伤害，也不会让周围的人感觉不舒服。
Feeling comfortable is the best way to get along with people,no matter friends,or families.Better men know how to get along with people,they solve the problem and deal with things quietly,will not cause harm to others,they will not let people around them feel uncomfortable.
1保持舒适度
有个朋友是心直口快的人，每次都掏心掏肺的和闺蜜讲她的一些经历，什么都愿意和闺蜜讲，有一次一个朋友和她聊天，聊着聊着以后就不想搭理她了，因为聊天涉及太多私人隐私，有些内容不方便说的，她也想探个究竟，人家如果不告诉她，她就觉得别人不够真诚，不够信任，有所隐瞒，不把她当朋友，结果就闹得不愉快。
There is a friend who is straightforward and fast in speaking,every time she is opening heart and talking about her experience with friends in everything,once her friend ignored her,because the conversation involved too much privacy,some were not convenient to say,she still tried to explore what really happened,if did not tell her, she will feel others not sincere enough to her,not trust in her,must have something to hide from her,and not treat her as real friend,at the end people get unhappy.
保持舒适度是人与人间交往基本的尊重，如果没有安全感，别人会觉得被侵犯，然后推开你，让双方都觉得尴尬，甚至发生冲突。即使是亲密关系，也有一些需要维护的细节，比如不可对外宣扬对方隐私和缺点等，有时候要照顾对方的感受。
Maintain comfort feeling is the basic way to respect people in relationship,If people are in no sense of security,they will feel a creepy invasion and push you away,both sides will feel embarrassed,or even have conflicts.Even for intimate relationship,you need to preserve some details,such as not to show privacy and shortcomings to others, and take care of each other's feelings.
2保持舒适距离
每个人都想要一个独立的空间不被太多的打扰，如果你超过了这个距离就冒犯了别人，让别人感觉不舒服。
Everyone wants an independent space without being disturbed,if you cross the distance will offend other people,and make others feel uncomfortable.
亲戚的小朋友暑假放假回家，个个十分可爱，不禁想要靠近捏捏小脸蛋，有一次他们在认真做作业，有几个问题不明白就请教了我，我给他们一些思路，然后他们就自己做了，三番五次我都想去看看作业做得如何了，刚开始他们让我看了，到了第三四次被他们支开了，让我不要看他们的作业，他们要自己做了，小朋友客气的说，您去做自己的事情吧，我自己来就行了。我说好吧，那你们自己完成就好。
Relative's children went home for summer vacation,all children are very cute,i can not help squeezing their small faces,once they are doing homework,and asked me to help them for several questions,I gave them some ideas,then they did by their own,I wanted to go and see how it was going for their homework for sevral times,they let me check at first,but refused after the third or fourth time,they just wanted to do by themselves,and politly said,please go and do your own thing, we will do by ourselves.I said ok,so you finished by yourselves.
3说话让人舒服
说话让人舒服的程度决定你的人生高度，懂得说话的人让你觉得谈吐优雅，有品位，亲和力强，轻松愉快。很多事情也就在言谈之间办成了。
The degree of comfortable in speaking determines the level of your life.The people who know how to speak make you feel elegant,taste,strong affinity,relax and happy.A lot of things are done during the conversation.
说话让人舒服不会刻意挑刺，不会抱怨指责，不会说一些不合适或不文明的语言，而是注重沟通，用心交流，了解双方的想法，达成一定的意见。
Comfortable in speaking,people will not be deliberately picky of things,will not complain,say something inappropriate or uncivilized,but focus on communication,intentions of exchange,and understanding ideas of both sides,to reach a certain point of view.
4办事让人舒服
有的人遇到问题不懂得处理，搞得人尽皆知。说得越多，出现的问题也越多。到最后没有真正解决了问题。
Some people do not know how to solve problems when they encounter problems,and make everybody know.When they were talking more,more problems arised.In the end did not really solve problems.
而有些人遇到问题不声不响地就解决后大家才知道的，看起来不好解决的问题在他那里解决了，我们会感叹这个人有多厉害。不动声色搞定难题，即使和别人求助也要善于思考，寻找解决办法，而不是制造更多的麻烦，这是办事让人舒服的程度。
Some people encounter problems and solved quietly before we know,the problems seems difficult but solved by him,we will praise how awesome of this guy.Even if you were asking others for help you have to keep thinking and looking for solutions,rather than creating more troubles,this is a comfortable way to solve problems.
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