My brain, like all brains, houses(v.贮藏)an unbelievable quantity of remembered information, and a huge amount of that information is stuff I’ve watched on television. (我和其他人一样,脑袋里装满了数量多到难以置信的信息,并且其中有一大部分是我通过电视看到的。)I always hatedStar Trek(星际迷航), and frequently said so, but whenever I catch a clip of The Next Generation, somehow I’ve seen that episode before.
I was also never exactly a fan of The Oprah Winfrey Show, but I’ve surely seen several hundred hours of it. For years after it went off the air, I kept remembering a particular insight(深入了解)Oprah shared once. I forget the context, but Oprah was amazed to realize that she didn’t have to answer the phone just because it was ringing.//奥普拉的例子
It was a significant insight to me too, not because answering the phone is a particularly difficult task, but because it meant there was an invisible(无形的)freedom there, which I somehow didn’t realize I had. Even if I still answered every call, it felt like a choice. Before that, it had been a kind of a master-slave type relationship, in which some remote person could push some buttons and force my body up onto its feet (perhaps tearing me away from a Star Trek rerun).
I am slowly grasping another overlooked freedom, which is the freedom/to let people be right (or at least feel right) even though I think they’re wrong. (我渐渐领会到了另一个被忽略的自由。那就是让别人正确(或至少觉得正确)的自由,即便在我看来,他们是错误的。)When someone tries to tell the world/ that Crash is a brilliant film, or that evolution is “just a theory”, I forget /that I am free to let them continue to think so.
I gather(推测=think)I have a long history of arguing my views, even when I’m not sure why I’m doing it. One time I was respectfully disagreeing with a coworker about something, and after a particularly good point I made, his tone went from sporting(体育;拥有良好的体育道德,本文正直,宽宏大量的意思)to angry and he said, “you are one argumentative person!” I told him he was wrong, but later wondered for a few seconds if I was indeed argumentative. No, he was the argumentative one. Otherwise he would have realized I was right.
And this was before the internet wasomnipresent(无所不在的)in our lives, before it started joining us in the bathroom, back when “going online” was still just an activity you did for part of the day, rather than an additional mode of global perception we can activate at any moment.The typical person experienced far fewer moments/ in which it felt appropriate to argue a point/ beyond what politeness allows.(代表那时期的人们则会更少经历人们为了一个观点挣得面红耳赤,而不顾传统礼节的情景。)
Today, it’s alarmingly easy to find yourself antler-locked(鹿角)with some remote, faceless person who’s trying to tell you that universal health care is a communist plot, while you’re waiting for your potato to finish microwaving.This facelessness turns up our impulse to argue/even more.(这种匿名性加剧了人们争论的冲动。)You may have noticed it’s a lot less pleasant to argue with someone when you can see their eyes.
I suppose many of you have no idea what I’m talking about. You see a statement you don’t agree with, or you know to be factually(事实的)wrong, and it creates no urge(强烈欲望)in you to correct, illuminate or scold(责骂), even in your head. You could hear someone praising Nancy Grace as a selfless defender of the vulnerable, or arguing that Godfather III was as good as the others, and yet feel no desire to try to get them to stop thinking that. You are wise enough to know that “fighting the good fight” in internet comment threads(评论线)is almost always pure indulgence, and just gives ignorance a reason to sink anchors and get louder.
But many of us aren’t so wise. Those argumentative souls among us that do engage, (and there are zillions of us, based on the comment totals on Facebook and YouTube alone) often believe we are somehow actually changing minds, actually eradicating ignorance and thoughtlessness. We aren’t indulging in a destructive or at least useless pastime, we’re saving the world from wrongness, one faceless Reddit user at a time. It’s not just okay to engage in these little conflicts, it’s a moral imperative. We can’t just allow ignorance to go on unopposed. The internet (well the whole world really, but it’s easiest on the internet) must be patrolled for bad beliefs.
And of course, it seldom occurs to us that we’re wrong. Maybe all my sources are incorrect, and we do swallow eight spiders a year in our sleep. But in the heat of enthusiastic wrong-righting, it never occurs to you that you’re the problem, or at least part of it.Being wrong feels exactly like being right, which is the sole feeling experienced by all parties, in any argument, about anything.(“错”的感觉其实和“对”的感觉是一样的。不论是关于任何事的何种争论,站在各方立场上,这种感觉都是独一无二的。)For those of us inclined to argue every point, it’s easy to forget that we have the freedom to simply carry on with our lives and let “wrong” viewpoints stand.It’s amazing how often it can seem like an exchange needs your input, the way a screaming kettle needs to be taken off theelement.(这种事情经常发生,就像每次交换的时候都需要现有输入才有输出,就像一个被烧得呼呼直叫的火炉需要把它跟电阻丝相离)
But it’s not the same. A different viewpoint, no matter howegregious(极坏的,极恶劣的)it seems, is no emergency. Civilization survived for over 10,000 years before you and I got here with our snarky corrections and condescending rebuttals, and we didn’t exactly make a huge difference when we did arrive. It turns out we don’t have to try to stop people from thinking what we don’t want them to think, and that our energy is probably better spent elsewhere.
In other words, it is possible, theoretically, to retire from Belief Patrol.(换句话说,不做“观念巡查”在理论上是可能的。)
I know beliefs have consequences in the real world. Harmful actions come from bad beliefs. I’m not claiming that we should never oppose anyone, never call anyone out(挑战某人,挑衅), never engage with people who disagree with us. I just don’t think that casually sparring with blowhards on social media, or even in real life, actually affects anyone’s beliefs in a helpful way.
I think Richard Carlson’s advice is probably an ideal motto for this: Let others be “right” most of the time.Asserting and defending our views/takes an enormous amount of mental energy/and accomplishes little.(主张并维护我们的看法会消耗大量的脑力并且收获甚微.)Sometimes it’s important (and actually useful) to take a stand in a conversation, but usually it’s just a kind of peace-destroying indulgence.
By“retiring from Belief Patrol”, I’m talking mostly about retiring from having non-face-to-face arguments in which there’s no mutual respect. The moment the motivation slips from goodwill to ill-will or annoyance, I’m done.
I hope. I hope I will notice the impulse before the words come out.(我希望,我希望自己有一天能在说出不当的话之前,就察觉到这种冲动.)It can be so automatic. Once you start to consider retirement, it’s unnerving how attractive it is to say something, to throw in your “Well ACTUALLY…”
It’s like being the hard-boiled TV vice cop whose family convinced him to retire, but then without realizing it, ends up embroiled in some wild crime adventure, following clues and chasing crooks across rooftops. He ends up back in that world, fist fighting a drug dealer on top of a moving train, not because he consciously decided to go back to the grind, but because his detective instincts were sharper than his awareness of what he was doing.
So we’ll see how things go in retirement. Already I’m noticing how often the impulse comes up. I’ve deleted so many half-written Reddit replies that I wonder if I ever contributed anything other than contradiction and snark.
I invite you to join me, if you’re a long-time Belief Patrol veteran. Let’s leave the swashbuckling game for good and go play tennis.We can still express our views in a thousand other ways that aren’t so indulgent and harsh.(我们其实还有数千种方式,能够表达我们的想法,并且这些方式没那么任性和刻薄.)You have this freedom, and I don’t blame you if you didn’t see it. Already I can tell you it’s way better to be retired. But I won’t argue the point.
单词
insight:深入了解; 深刻见解
invisible:无形的,看不见的
gather:推测,臆测
omnipresent:无所不在的
factual:事实的
urge:强烈欲望
scold:责骂
indulgence:纵容
zillion:极多
eradicate:根除
patrol:巡视;侦察
element:电阻丝
egregious:极坏的; 极恶劣的
call someone out:挑战某人,挑衅
embroil:使卷入(战斗或争论)
grind:苦差事
句子
My brain, like all brains, houses an unbelievable quantity of remembered information, and a huge amount of that information is stuff I’ve watched on television. 我和其他人一样,脑袋里装满了数量多到难以置信的信息,并且其中有一大部分是我通过电视看到的。
I am slowly grasping another overlooked freedom, which is the freedom to let people be right (or at least feel right) even though I think they’re wrong. 我渐渐领会到了另一个被忽略的自由。那就是让别人正确(或至少觉得正确)的自由,即便在我看来,他们是错误的。
The typical person experienced far fewer moments in which it felt appropriate to argue a point beyond what politeness allows. 代表那时期的人们则会更少经历人们为了一个观点挣得面红耳赤,而不顾传统礼节的情景。
This facelessness turns up our impulse to argue even more. 这种匿名性加剧了人们争论的冲动。
Being wrong feels exactly like being right, which is the sole feeling experienced by all parties, in any argument, about anything. “错”的感觉其实和“对”的感觉是一样的。不论是关于任何事的何种争论,站在各方立场上,这种感觉都是独一无二的。
In other words, it is possible, theoretically, to retire from Belief Patrol. 换句话说,不做“观念巡查”在理论上是可能的。
Asserting and defending our views takes an enormous amount of mental energy and accomplishes little. 主张并维护我们的看法会消耗大量的脑力并且收获甚微。
I hope. I hope I will notice the impulse before the words come out. 我希望,我希望自己有一天能在说出不当的话之前,就察觉到这种冲动。
We can still express our views in a thousand other ways that aren’t so indulgent and harsh. 我们其实还有数千种方式,能够表达我们的想法,并且这些方式没那么任性和刻薄。