Intro
What if believing in yourself is all that you have left right now? When I hit rock bottom, that’s when I started believing in myself the most because I had nothing left to lose. When you have nothing left to lose, then what’s the harm in believing in yourself fully? We believe day in and day out negative things about ourselves. We always have limiting beliefs about how we are not good enough. But what if we change the narrative and start telling ourselves how we are? Start telling ourselves how we can make it and how we will make it no matter what anyone has ever told us. What if you tell yourself day in and day out you are going to make it? I didn’t grow up in a childhood where my parents told me you should believe in yourself and be confident. No, I was told the opposite. I looked at my parents and everyone around me, and I thought I didn’t want to live like you guys. I don’t want to have a future like you guys. So, what did I have to do? I have to do things differently. I had no choice but to believe in myself. I had no choice but to be delusional and think that somehow everything that I had ever gone through was not in vain. Everything that you are going through right now is not in vain. Anything that you are going through is growing you. So, if you are in this position, I’m telling you one day you will look back at this time, and you’ll think I am so grateful that this happened because now I have the knowledge that I needed back then. Now, I’m a bigger person than I was back then. But you have to make that decision to take all of that knowledge and use it for something better. Use it to grow yourself.
First, get rid of the limiting beliefs from your environment. 【摆脱从童年开始产生的限制性信念，对自己的设限】
How do our thoughts get created? It’s when we are born babies. As children, we look at our parents and the way they think and behave, and we start adapting those beliefs and behaviors. If your parents have a limiting belief about money, you will have a limiting belief about money because you grew up that way. I really imagine a world where I grew up in a way where my parents never put fear onto me of other people or “Oh, don’t do this because that will ruin the reputation.” “Oh, don’t do this and that.” I would never have felt insecure, embarrassed, or anything. I would just be myself authentically, and I would never feel like I had to dim myself. But because the parents put that into you from a child’s age, you act in a way subconsciously that is always dimming your light. But honey, dimming your light will not get you anywhere. Diming your light hasn’t got your parents anywhere. So, you have to look at what will get me the furthest. In 2013, there was a study conducted where they made male mice smell cherry blossoms, and anytime they smelled them, they would zap and electrocute their feet. So, anytime they did that, the male mice started to learn that the cherry blossom smell is associated with pain, and they had a fear of the smell of cherry blossoms. Then they took the male mice and made them breed with female mice who never had electrocution and didn’t have that issue, so they made children together, and when they had the children, these children would immediately fear or get nervous when they smelled cherry blossom. They knew it because it was in their gene and in their biology to not do that. Now you have to imagine how much of your limiting beliefs or how much of your insecurities are just from your parents that you inherited through genes and DNA. Maybe it’s not true. So, start really asking yourself, do I believe this about myself, or is this something that I got from my mother, my father, or my ancestors? And you can revise these beliefs. Do you know what advantage you have if you just believe in yourself? Because 99% of people do not believe in themselves. 99% of people are afraid of others' opinions, are afraid to look embarrassed, and don’t think that they can do that thing. But you have that 1% that just believes in themselves and that doesn’t care if they make it. So, if you become that 1%, you don’t have a lot of competition. You really, really don’t.
Another thing is the law of conformity. 【臣服的力量：接受而不是抗拒，外界的评价并不能影响你，除非你允许】
This basically means that no matter how hard you try to do something, your environment will always dictate who you are. This is very true. If you are trying to love yourself constantly or believe in yourself, you can do something, but you have someone around you constantly in your ears telling you you will not achieve and you cannot do that. At some point, you are going to start to believe that person over yourself because this is the environment you have. If you live in a household where this is the case, then try to minimize contact with these people. Try to stay at work as much as you can. Try to stay away from them as much as you can or in your room. Don’t engage with them. If this is your relationship or your boss at work, your colleagues, or these are your friends, then try to change your environment. For me, the environment that I grew up in was a country in which I never felt like it was open-minded enough for me to create. So, I moved immediately when I met my ex-partner. I moved immediately where he was living. My career started expanding immediately after that. In the country that I grew up in, social media was really looked down upon. They would kind of laugh at you. It was that kind of mindset. So, I moved to a country where there are a lot of entrepreneurs who are doing social media, and then I just felt like I could expand so much faster. So, if you are not changing, maybe you need to change your environment. Start believing that you deserve to take up space. My sister showed me this TikTok video of this beautiful woman. She has an autoimmune disease, which made her extremely skinny. Someone had commented on her stuff: oh, you are so ugly. And she responded to that: even though you think I am ugly, I deserve to take up space. I deserve to put my content out there, and I deserve to be seen. Even though I’m not what you like, I deserve to be here. I was just thinking that it was so beautiful and powerful. It’s just realizing that no matter what anyone tells you, no matter that you think that you’re not good enough, just being here means that you are a miracle and that you are allowed to take up space. God didn’t put you on earth to not take up space. There was space for you. And that’s why you came to this earth. That’s why you have a mission and purpose on this earth. However, the purpose cannot be fulfilled because your lack of self-belief blocks it. No one is holding you back. You are holding yourself back. Don’t give anyone power over you to think that they can take something from you or make you feel something. They cannot make you feel anything if you don’t allow yourself to feel it. Also, resistance is what lowers the vibration. For example, I get a comment like oh, I think she is so ugly. Now, if I will resist, like: Oh, I am not ugly. I do really look good. Then, I am lowering my vibration because I’m putting so much energy into something that, at the end of the day, doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter whether you think I am good-looking or whether you think I’m not good-looking. It matters how I show up for myself day in and day out. It matters how I feel about myself. You really have to ask yourself: Why should I feel any less about myself because someone else cannot see me the way I see myself? Why would you give someone power like that? If you just accept that I am ugly to you and that is okay, it can just pass through. The more you try to resist being angry, the more you try to resist being sad, and the more you try to resist all these emotions, the more you feel worse and worse. And your energy goes into resisting it instead of letting it pass through. I’m going to be sad. I’m going to even cry for a month. Let me cry. I’m going to be angry. I’m going to yell. I’m going to shout. Let me do that. It doesn’t matter. But when it’s done, it’s done. And I can move on from that. Another part of believing in yourself is becoming OK with not being chosen and not being liked. A lot of people will not like you in life. And that is just the harsh truth, especially if you’re trying to do something on social media. You will get a lot of backlashes even the more you grow. You’ll have to accept it. You’ll have to come to a point where these people will not like me, or these people will not choose me. You guys all go: oh, I’m crying. This guy didn’t want me… But what about it? Does that determine your worth just because someone said I don’t like you? You know how many times I heard I don’t like you, and I don’t care. Why should I care about what they think in their world, about me? I cannot allow that in. Liz is the owner of her world. And if Liz likes herself, if I go day in and day out thinking, I’m the greatest thing that has walked this earth. That’s what I’m going to create for myself. If you go and you walk around like, you know what? This world has not seen magic yet, and I’m the magic. Great. That is what you are going to create a magical world. But if you go around like, oh my God, this person rejected me.’ So now I’m worth nothing… That is what you will create: a person who is worth nothing because you gave all that power to that one person.
Another thing you have to believe is that happy you exist. 【相信更好的自己一定存在，相信命运会指引你实现愿望，相信存在本身就是奇迹】
You have to believe that a version of you exists that is living the life you want, that has the accomplishments you want, and that is living the purpose that you want. It exists. You would not want it if it wasn’t inside of you. The more you start to visualize it for yourself, like this is who I really want to be. And then you put in the work, guys. This is the big mistake that everyone makes. Oh, I should just believe in myself and sit down. No, you put in the work. What do you want to accomplish? What do you want to do? And then you do it. If you fail at it, you try again. Maybe you tried with something else, but at least you tried. You are already 50% in front of other people because they never tried. Become okay with redirection and letting go. I was talking to this friend of mine, and she was telling me how she had prayed to God after having so many bad relationships. She had prayed to God. God, please give me a good relationship. Finally, I’m ready to love, and I’m really in a good position. She said after that. She attracted one of probably the worst partners she ever had. But this person taught her to love herself. And that was her lesson. Her lesson wasn’t to seek love in her partner. Her lesson was to love herself first. Her lesson was to come home to herself first. So that she would stop attracting partners who couldn’t give her what she wanted. If you’re whole and if you believe that you deserve the best thing in life and anything you want, you can get it. There is no way that someone who doesn’t have that same vibration can come into your life. But when we say we are ready for a new partner, we’re ready. We’re finally healed. God will test you one last time and be like, are you? You have to take those lessons and move on and see them as redirection. I’ve so many times thought that, oh, I want this, or I want this guy, or I want this relationship. And then it didn’t work out. And then I was like, oh God, why is this? But then I got something so much better when I let go of it. When I let go of it, I got something that I could never even have imagined for myself. Your higher self and God have bigger plans for you. You cannot see it. You only see the bad things right now. You only see the suffering right now. You don’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. God would not let you suffer for no reason. It is for you to grow. You need to grow into the person that is your higher self. And how do you grow into that person? It's through relationships. It’s through loss. It’s through all these lessons because that’s how we learn. Maybe right now, it’s just time for you to find yourself again. It’s just time for you to find out what I like. Who do I want to be? How do I want to be perceived? What clothes do I like? What do I think suits me the best? How could I take care of myself in the way I wish my parents had taken care of me? How can I love myself the way I wish my parents had loved me? Maybe it’s time to come home to yourself.
Another way of believing in yourself is by moving on for you. 【不遗余力地付出努力，当下就是最好的时机，在做的事情就是正确的事情，一切都在正轨】
Doing things for you. You have to let that go. You have to let that past go. Not because I’m telling you to suffer. You will often want to go back to that past because that’s where your comfort zone lies. But you have to move on because the future you do not deserve this. The future you do not deserve something where you’re not fulfilled. The future you do not deserve something where it’s uncertain and where you’re not respected. You deserve better than that. The future you deserve peace. Give yourself grace. Give yourself kindness right now. Give yourself the ability to feel that peace. It doesn’t always have to be bad. You don’t have to recreate your childhood again for yourself. You don’t have to recreate that childhood in partners again for yourself. It’s not necessary. You can live drama-free now because it has ended. But honey, trust me, there is something waiting for you just to come in when you release the past. When you take your power back from that situation. Anything you’re clinging onto is draining energy from you. And because it’s draining energy, nothing else can come in because you’re occupied. Take a situation where you feel like you were done badly and turn it around. Instead of saying, Oh my god, I’m so stupid. How could I have not noticed that they were cheating on me? Maybe realize that, whoa, I’m a person who can love deeply, and I am a very loyal person. Wow, I deserve a person like that. Instead of saying, oh my god, I have such bad friends, they were doing all the things to me behind my back. Say, I’m grateful that I am not like that. I am grateful that I didn’t do people dirty like that. Stop commanding yourself for the things that you cannot understand in other people. Also, trust in who you are becoming. You are becoming such a powerful person. You are such a good, powerful person who will accomplish anything that you set your mind to. But right now, you are going through trials and tribulations, and you are trying things out. It’s okay. You are learning. You are growing. But just trust that the person that you are going to be at the end of the day is a person who will look back and will laugh at these situations and be like, you know what? I’m grateful for this situation, and I’m grateful for the way I handled it. I am proud of myself. That’s the person you will be. That’s the person you will become. God will not fail you. You will not fail yourself. Even if I look at myself today, I get such a shocked feeling because I am who I needed when I was younger. I wish I had someone that was like me when I was younger that I could look at. Because that would have motivated me so much. That would make me believe in myself so much, and I would have seen that there was another way out. I know that my inner child can feel safe with me now. Because I fought for myself. I really fought for myself through everything. And I know you are fighting every single day for yourself, and you are going to get there. Your inner child is going to feel so safe with you one day. And you are going to thank yourself for not giving up on yourself. If anyone gives up on you, no matter who leaves, no matter who goes, you have to stay with yourself, honey. Day in and day out, the one person you cannot escape is you. Why be mean to that one person? Why belittle that one person? You are the only one you have. Don’t compare. Your journey is very personal. whatever you are looking at, all these other people, you think, oh my god, they are already so far. Maybe if you were in their shoes, you wouldn’t be happy. Because you don’t know what they’re going through behind the scenes. They portray an image to you, and you think, I would want that image. But if you really switch shoes, you would be miserable. This is your journey. And your journey is going to be whatever you make of it. When you decide, you know, this is what I want in my life. And this is what I have to do to achieve it. And you believe in yourself fully to achieve that thing. No matter what, you will achieve it. And you will create a beautiful journey for yourself. Don’t look at other people and think I should have been there. No, you are exactly where you are supposed to be right now. And you have to trust that whatever you are going through, it’s going to end up on the better side. It’s hard, but at least you’re trying. Do you know how many people are not trying anymore and have completely given up on life? If you wake up every day and you still think, I have this goal for myself, and I’m going to accomplish this. Baby steps, but I’m going to get there and do this thing. You are still breathing, trying every day. That means your mission is not done yet. You have something to accomplish. You have a purpose here. You need to start believing in that. You know how many times I struggle with believing in myself, and sometimes I even think like, I don’t want this YouTube thing anymore. I get ideas like that, but then I’m like, no, let’s overcome these limiting beliefs. Let’s overcome this avoidant attachment lifestyle that I’ve created for myself, where I would just constantly run away from things or go and try to hide myself. Let’s be okay with shining right now. I need to shine, and people need to see me because, somehow, I’m benefiting them. You have to believe in that for yourself, too. I’m still showing up for myself every day, even if it’s hard, even if I don’t want to. So many times, I’ve thought that I don’t want this life anymore. I don’t want any life anymore. Does that mean that I have to give up on myself? No, because I’ve never given up on myself. And I believe that I’m meant for great things. I meant for bigger things than this. And I believe that you can do anything like that. You can do anything set in your mind, and you can be the biggest and best thing in this world. But you need to start saying I am the best thing this world will ever see. I am the greatest this world will ever walk. And when you have that belief in yourself, honey, watch how the world will start acting in accordance with what you believe.
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