Day 30
我用爱对自己说话
爱自己的最佳方式，就是放下过往的一切负面信息，活在当下这一刻。一般来说，在你年幼时，父母、师长及其他权威人士对你说的话，都会塑造你在自我对话（你在脑海里对自己说的话）时的基本模式。因此，在以下这个镜子练习中，我希望你能改变这种模式的自我对话。
站在或坐在镜子面前
凝视你的眼睛
说出一下肯定语：无论我跟自己说什么，都是出于爱
反复说：无论我看着镜子跟自己说什么，都是出于爱
小时候你听到的话，有哪些还在脑海中挥之不去？例如，你笨死了，你不够好 ……花点时间去处理这些负面话语，把它们改为正面的肯定语：我是天才；有源源不绝的好点子；我是一个了不起的人；我值得被爱。
从这些正面的肯定语中，反复念诵，直到你能自在说出口为止。
接下来的这一天里，每次经过镜子面前或者在玻璃窗中看到自己的身影时，都要停下脚步，反复声明这些爱自己的肯定语。
January 30
I speak to myself with love
The best way to love yourself is to release all the negative messages from your past and live in the present moment. Often, early messages from parents, teachers, and other authority figures contribute to yourself-talk – what you say to yourself in your head. So with this mirror work exercise,I’d like you to change your self-talk.
Stand or sit in front of your mirror.
Look into your eyes.
Say this affirmation: whatever I say to myself, I will say it with love.
Keep repeating it: whatever I say to myself in this mirror, I say it with love.
Is there a statement that you heard as a child that still sticks in your head? “You’re stupid” or “you’re not good enough.” Take time to work with negative statements and turn them into positive affirmations: I am a genius with an abundance of creative ideas. I am a magnificent person. I am worthy loving.
Choose one or two of these new, positive affirmations and say them over and over again. Keep saying them until you feel comfortable with them.
Each time you pass a mirror or see your reflection in a window throughout the day, stop and repeat these loving affirmations.
