I’ve been thinking what my parents’ marriage could possibly teach me when it comes to my own in the future. She’s so stubborn, strong-headed and always right, which is exhausting.He’s so gentle, weak and makes mistakes from time to time, which is irresponsible.She wouldn’t let go because she’s been putting in so much into this family;however, she wouldn’t forgive either. He, on the other hand, doesn’t really have a choice. Eventually, everyone is suffering. Yes, if it were not for his mistake, none of this drama would happen. But she’s been screaming, scolding,fighting and it’s ceaseless. Well, I don’t know how this might end. But if it’s me:
First and foremost, I won’t marry someone simply because he’s cute and has such a pleasant personality and never throws any temper, nor because he treats me well. I will marry because I look up at this man and I will respect him from the bottom of my heart.
I will not assume the worst of him if we are married.I will not doubt.I’ve seen how much she’s been suffering and how many pain she’s forcing into each one of us in the family because she doesn’t trust.
I will not marry a liar for whatever reason he might have. Just like her, one thing I hate most about myself is trust issues, and I will not beable to trust again if he ever lies to me or cheats on me.
I will be forgiving if Ican’t let go. I will forgive myself for marrying a man that makes mistakes and I will forgive him if he deserves a second chance as much as I hate to admit. Iwon’t hold this against him for the rest of my life if I’ve decided to move on.
If their marriage ever taught me anything, that would be: you have to take full responsibility for your actions. If it doesn't work, leave gracefully.
