My son always gave me a call to express that he miss me when I was on business trip before, and I used to it. I know he would call me before he fall asleep.
But something change recently, when I was on travel to Guangxi last whole week, I received no call from him and he even don't want to talk with me when my wife called me.
I want to kown what happened between us, my wife told me that he asked her the question for many times, and the question is "How to make father cry?"
What? Why? What's the matter with him? And what's wrong with me?
I am so surprise when I heard the strange question, and I got something after analysis with my wife. Maybe I criticize with him frequently when he do something wrong (From my opinion I think it's wrong?) and it made him cry sometimes, maybe he want to get it back, to make me cry. It remind me that most of the time my son's cry because of me.
I know one of my shortcoming is impatient and the corresponding advantage is no gurdge, forgot fast after conflict and only consider something as it stands.
But it's not proper when turn to education of children. you may forget everything after you criticize the child, but he/she don't. They will remember it for a very long time before you say sorry or do something they feel happy, and it's not enough, when something esle happened in daily life it may reminds them of the bad memory. It's not easy to let them to accept your apology.
I remember that Mr.Wubofan said in one of his episode that teach child is the most complicate thing in the world, because ther e is no fixed way to do it right, each one is different and they are often change in different stage and different circumstance. You can not design a proposal or make a plan, it's dynamic and changeable all over the time.
I realize that I am do something wrong, I put aside all my work after I back home and play with him and say something sweet and apologize to him, he siad that "give you another chance"!
When you teach your child, and you can also learn from them, they are a good teacher of life.
Hi son, daddy will progress with you together.
