深夜和朋友聊天
自从生了小朋友，大家都对我的学业问题表示深刻的担忧和谨慎的乐观。
我也只能权当债多了不愁还、虱子多了不愁痒，嘻哈应付各种声音。
但心底最真实的声音就如今晚小D所说，孩子上学我能毕业就好。
在纽约、在北京，别说三年，半年都得急。节奏太快，半年意味的东西太多太多——职位、经济收入。三年更是奢侈到可能把小朋友的生活环境从下城区切换到上东区、回龙观、大昌平切换到西城、海淀。从此骑小马、学礼仪，在博物馆学历史、在徒步中锻炼身体、上自然课。时不时见见AA、BB或者CC提升钢琴、围棋、书法技能，双假期周游世界增广见闻……
然而在兰州，在俗世里倾尽全力三年，也不过意味着将小朋友从辰北挤进水车园——依旧是全天埋头语数外、未来要挤独木桥。而和千军万马一起挤独木桥，是要体力的呀，所以三年陪他多爬爬山、游游泳、泥沟沟里打打滚，再挤独木桥应该会健康些吧。
更何况，读博哪那么容易，在哈佛，三年不过刚刚过了语言关，没个七八年，怎么好意思说你读的是博士。更何况我这类半路出家的“伪学生”。不要用“中国速度”，既毁了孩子的成长、也砸了你未来的饭碗鸭。
越想越有道理，赶紧记下来。最后再附一首很流行的小诗，回向给焦虑哈哈哈🤪
New York is 3 hours ahead of California,
but it does not make California slow.
Someone graduated at the age of 22,
but waited 5 years before securing a good job!
Someone became a CEO at 25,
and died at 50.
While another became a CEO at 50.
and lived to 90 years.
Someone is still single,
while someone else got married.
Obama retires at 55,
but Trump starts at 70.
Absolutely everyone in this world works based on their Time Zone.
People around you might seem to go ahead of you,
some might seem to be behind you.
But everyone is running their own RACE, in their own TIME.
Don’t envy them or mock them.
They are in their TIME ZONE, and you are in yours!
Life is about waiting for the right moment to act.
So, RELAX.
You’re not LATE.
You’re not EARLY.
You are very much ON TIME, and in your TIME ZONE Destiny set up for you.
