1，This is because most learning comes from making mistakes, reflecting on the causes of the mistakes, and learning what to do differently in the future.

绝大多数学习来自于犯错误、对错误原因的反思并学习如何做出改变避免将来再犯。

2，if you can develop a knee-jerk reaction to pain that is to reflect rather than to fight or flee, it will lead to your rapid learning/evolving.

如果你能锻炼出类似膝反射的习惯，对错误带来的痛苦理性反思而不是战或逃，这就会让你更快的学习和进化。

Pain + Reflection = Progress 痛苦 + 反思 = 进步

3，In contrast, people who know that understanding what is real is the first step toward optimally dealing with it make better decisions.

相比之下，人们理解现实是应对现实问题的第一步，也能够做出更好的决策。

4，As I mentioned in the first chapter, you don’t have to know everything to get what you want. You just have to be honest with yourself about what you don’t know and know who to ask for help.

正如第一章所说，你不必为了达成目标知道所有事情。你最需要的是诚恳：你什么不懂和应该找谁帮忙。

5，This explains why people who are interested in making the best possible decisions rarely are confident that they have the best possible answers. So they seek to learn more (often by exploring the thinking of other believable people, especially those who disagree with them) and they are eager to identify their weaknesses so that they don’t let these weaknesses stand in the way of them achieving their goals.

这可以解释那些乐于做出最佳决策的人，往往很少自信他们的选择是最佳答案。他们寻求学习更多（通过学习那些可信的人的想法，尤其持反对意见的人）并且迫切想知道自己的弱点，从而不让这些弱点成为阻碍成功的绊脚石。

6，So, what are your biggest weaknesses? Think honestly about them because if you can identify them, you are on the first step toward accelerating your movement forward. So think about them, write them down, and look at them frequently.

你最大的弱点是什么？深入和诚恳的去反思，这很重要，因为这是你加速进化的第一步。所以要思考、记下并时常审视你的弱点。

7，Blaming bad outcomes on anyone or anything other than one’s self is essentially wishing that reality is different than it is, which is silly. And it is subversive because it diverts one’s attention away from mustering up the personal strength and other qualities that are required to produce the best possible outcomes.

有了坏结果就责怪别人而不是从自身找原因，就是不尊重和承认事实，实际是愚蠢的自欺欺人。这有很大的破坏性，因为可以扰乱人的焦点，把需要用来做出最佳判断的个人优势和良好品质分散了。

8，Successful people understand that bad things come at everyone and that it is their responsibility to make their lives what they want them to be by successfully dealing with whatever challenges they face. Successful people know that nature is testing them, and that it is not sympathetic.

成功人士理解每个人都可能碰到糟糕的事，他们有责任去应对和解决这些挑战，让自己的生活按自己的希望运行。他们明白这是自然在考验他们，没什么需要怜悯的。

9，if you have a large enough sample size—if you have large number of decisions (if you are playing a lot of poker hands, for example)—over time, luck will cancel out and skill will have a dominant role in determining outcomes.

如果你有足够多得样本，即你做了足够多的决定，就像不停打扑克一样，幸运其实会消失，技巧会成为结果的决定性因素

10a friend of mine dove into a swimming pool and became a quadriplegic. But he approached his situation well and became as happy as anybody else, because there are many paths to happiness.

我的一位朋友跳进泳池后变成了瘫痪，但他接受了现实，逐渐变得和其他人一样幸福，因为幸福之路有很多。