今天在看八周正念减压疗法的一本外文的书，有一段实在精彩翻译出来，和大家一起分享。
出现在第三章。
When I Reach My Goal ,Then I’ll Be Happy… Won’t I ?
完成了我的目标，我就会幸福了。
真的是这样吗？
This statement reflects an attitude that governs many people’s lives. We often focus our attention as well as our hopes on promises of happiness or the big events in our lives. As a result, we trend to lose sight of the subtle, chronic stress this attitude causes. We allow our lives to be dominated ---- more or less unconsciously ------- by a “when-then” attitude:” when children have left home , then I’ll take more time for myself” or “When I’ve finished this project , then things will quiet down. We try to convince ourselves that we will be happier once we have a new car or a new partner , or we have taken a beach vacation. This attitude is fostered and reinforced by modern society, which supports the notion that contentment lies on status symbols ,an attractive physical appearance , success, and wealth --- and that (继续修饰notion) these things are more important than serenity ,relaxation our quality of life and ethics . Australian writer and philosopher Father Alfred D’Souza put it concisely :” for a long time it seemed to me that life was about to begin ---- real life.这样想法反映了一种掌控很多人生活的态度。 我们经常会把注意力和希望放在幸福或者生活中大事的承诺上。 结果，我们却忽视了这种态度所引起的潜移默化的，不易察觉慢性压力。 我或多或少的潜意识里面都希望可以掌控自己的生活 。比如 孩子要是离开了家， 我就可以有更多的时间了， 或者完成了这个项目，一切就消停了。
我们试图说服我们自己， 有了一辆新车，一个新的合作伙伴，或者我们去海滩度个假，我们就幸福点了。现代社会的观念培养，助长了这种态度：那就是满足依赖于某种标志：比如 吸引人的长相，成功和财富，以及那些比平和，放松，生活质量和伦理道德都重要的东西。
澳大利亚作家和哲学家阿尔弗莱德所撒 一语道破： “长期以来，对我来说，生命才刚刚开始 ，这才是真实的生活”
