焦虑来自完美倾向。
但人为什么会有完美主义倾向？因为对人生有期待，有自我提升的夙求，但走向了窄化的极端。
完美主义者对自我和他人要求严苛，竞争意识强，也大多强迫症一般的理性。We who work with science mind believe in patterns and sequences. And perfectionism sometimes doesn't end well, unless the patterns gets disrupted.
sounds melodramatic..
Brain chemistry discoveries there are phases of what they call love: phase one is an overload of neurotransmitters. Which feels like falling, thus "falling in love". Phase one lasts less than a year;
Phase two involves the production of oxytocin and vasopression, particularly after org*sm. Phase two either evolves into long-term attachment or, much more frequently, romance fades, relation fails and the search begins for another phase one stimulation with a new one. Finally they would feel relieved，no miserable but indifferent.
《圣经》里有一句话，"爱中没有惧怕"。我一直不太理解，爱和恐惧何以当作同一维度的counterparts.
But I also have to admit that there are more non-understandables. I don't really understand love.
love is nothing more than just two people in the grip of dopamine. There is nothing wrong to be hyper-rational, it protects us from uncertainties, from those would throw us for a loop. It helps us to tuck feelings, use brain instead, and not letting heart lead us.
But, shall perfectionism be over flourishing? over living a full life or, conversely?
