2015年8月21日，还在台北松山机场候机的我，忽感无聊，距离登机时间尚早，便随手在机场书店翻阅了一本名叫《人脉学》的书。封面的字，吸引了我 “ 不做的話，就沒有機會。所以，不要猶豫，做就對了。” 当时看到，感觉这句话与Toastmasters里面的名言“Learn By Doing” 有异曲同工之妙。
Last summer, I found a book < The connections> in the airport book store. The title of it attracted me very much " You will chanceless if keep thinking, so, just do it" It seems like the famous saying in Toastmasters," Learn By Doing".
书的作者是一位日本创意鬼才，同时也是一位大学教授，小山薰堂。当时，在飞机上一口气全部读完了，里面提到的关于人与人之间的6种连结，可来自邂逅，来自想象力，来自命运，来自人性力量，来自心，来自梦想。各种意想不到的方式，非常有趣，有意思。日本人的想象力果然创意无限，难怪被誉为“鬼才”。相比自己，把人脉想象的太单一，无趣了。
The writer of this book named " Kundo Koyama, he is a professor and a talent creator. It mentioned 6 ways for people to connect. They come from encounter, imagination, fate, powder, heart and dream. They are pretty unexpected and interesting. I am so proud of Japanese's creative idea of life.
有人说，检验知识是否被记住的方法，就是当过一段时间后，被再次提起时，还有些保留在你潜意识中，那么那些知识就是已经被你记住，并已幻化为你自己的东西了。我最近就深深体会到了。。。
Someone said, the only way to test if your memory is that, you can realize something when it's mentioned unconscious, and it's already be yours. I can feel it deeply recently...
最近一个月，我在个人公众号开始推出男神女神系列（近期将开启“人物专访” 系列），并在下一周开始要举办线下沙龙活动。这在期间，共采访了6位朋友，男生女生各半。其中，有多年前的老朋友，也有在Toastmasters演讲俱乐部认识的新朋友。要说连结，就是基于俱乐部的众多人群的互动，偶尔一瞥，台上三五分钟的演讲，抑或手机微信群的@，点赞。。。
As everybody know, I made it a new series to publish some of my friends on my wechat offical accouts, and will also hold a frist party for it. At that time, I interviewed 6 people, 3 for male, 3 for female. Some of them is my long lost friend, some are my new friends in Toastmasters. Frankly, I have no more deep connection with them just some interaction on wechat group.
随着通讯设备的便利化，我们人与人之间的真诚的，面对面的互动越来越少，单凭俱乐部，培训学校里面的公共场合聚会，都不可能产生太真切的友谊。同性尚且如此，异性之间就更加明显。（当然我个人认为异性之间是存在友情的）尤其，当你通过某一个活动，看到某位异性身上的闪光点，想多了解一些时，或许有想过单独约出，但你是否会首先思考下是否会被误会。我想，我若不是基于采访的形式，那么与单身男士出来单独见面，是否会被误解为“对ta有意思”？
Our interaction is so cherished, cuz the communication tools are very convenient for us to contact, it's so hard to keep friendship by cell phone. Especially fot the members of the opposite sex. Maybe you thought about to know more about someone which opposite your sex, but you will also worry about to be misundersand that you're into him/ her.
这是一个既开发，又保守的社会。开放于，手机上聊的天马行空；保守于，面对面竟无语凝噎。手机上聊的再好，也仅仅限于文字，标点，表情符号，看不到对方的真实表情，听不到对方实时的语调语气。
Now, this is a open and conservative society. Open for anything we can chat on wechat; conservative for nothing we can chat face to face. We could not heard, touch, feel the people are chatting by cell phone.
小山薰堂的这本书，我想大抵记住的就是书里鬼才的互动方式，让我通过采访的形式，与他们产生连结，这种朋友式的采访，让大家感到聊天的气氛是温馨的，聊的内容是安全的，及时触碰到任何雷区，也是可以被理解的。因为无关你我，只看人生。可以聊的天南地北，全面深入的了解彼此。而此时，我也感到自己是无我的状态，非常轻松自如。
The book < The connections> I can remember because of it's creative interaction ways. I can know more about my friends by this interview way. And the interviewees all very enjoyed the interview, they can show themselves in a free style.We can also chat anything with no taboos.
所以，人与人之间，只要你想产生连结，你就会找到一种彼此舒服的方式，去沟通，在这个淡漠的社会，在这个雾霾的冬天，还能感觉一屡屡真诚，一丝丝清新和一点点温暖。
So, if you want to get some connection with some people, you will find your comfortable way no doubt. Then you will find everyone is a princess or prince in the other planet, the only one we have to do is let them restore themselves on the strange earth.
