幸福的定义从来都是简单和淳朴的，我们赋予了太多的成分，变得复杂。亲情如是，友情如是，爱情如是，工作亦如是。
Happiness has always been simple and honest,we have given it too many complicated components.Such as happiness with family,friends,love,work etc.
1爱的能力The ability to love
幸福是一种能力，首先是爱的能力。现在大多数人比较浮躁，自私自利的人越来越多，似乎很多人缺少了爱的能力。每个人生活在自己的空间，互相孤立。
Happiness is a kind of ability, first is the ability to love.Most people now are impetuous, more and more people are selfish and lack of ability to love.Everyone lives in their own space,and isolated from each other.
如何去爱是我们的问题，你是否用心感受对方的需要，是否关心体贴别人，是否懂得互相理解，尊重，信任与认可，是否懂得一起分担责任，是否懂得分享和联系？这些构成了爱的能力。
How to love is our question,do you feel the needs of each other,are you concerned about each other,do you understand,respect,trust and approve each other,do you share responsibility of each other,do you share and contact with each other? These form the ability to love.
爱的力量更有温度，更甜蜜，更能温暖内心，不管你拥有再多，爱永远是最让你感到幸福的。
Love is powerful with more temperature, more sweet, more warm to heart,no matter how much you have,love is always the most one to make you feel happy.
2付出，给予的能力The ability to give
不仅爱要付出，任何回报都要付出。这个时代不缺少能力，缺少的是付出，给予和承担。
Not only love needs to give,any gains need to give.Nowadays we are not lack of ability,what we lack is to give and take responsibility.
很多人一直都是做伸手党，只求索取，关注的是别人给你什么，如果有人说这个我不会，没做过，不懂做，或什么都没有结果，那他首先肯定是不愿意付出的，意愿决定了一个人会付出多少努力。
Many people have been streching out the hands to take,what they concern is what someone else can give them,if there was someone said that I can not do this things,i never did this things,do not know how to do the things,or get no results at the end,he is certainly not willing to give.The willingness to give determine how much a person will pay.
得到是一种幸福，付出也是一种幸福。
Getting is a kind of happiness,giving is also a kind of happiness.
3挫折修复能力Frustration reconstruct ability
也许你现在信心满满，付出了全部的努力，可能到最后没有期望的回报，社会的竞争大，人口众多，你投入的时间，付出的努力微不足道，中间遇到了未曾意料的困难，结果失败。
Perhaps you were full of confidence,you have done all of your efforts, but the final return are not as expected, the society is full of competition with large population,you put many of time, the effort is a drop in the bucket,you may encountered unexpected difficulties, and failed.
挫折和困难在所难免，需要一颗强大的内心，一种很强的修复能力，遇到问题才不会恐慌苦恼，轻易放弃，一蹶不振。
Setbacks and difficulties is inevitable,you need a strong heart, strong ability to reconstruct, you will not panic and distressen when counter problems, and will not easy to give up and depress.
4接纳的能力Accept ability
每个人都不一样，想法不同，作风不同，价值观不同。别人喜欢的，你不一定喜欢，你喜欢的不必要求别人也喜欢。尊重别人喜欢的，喜欢自己喜欢的，这是一种差异的接纳能力。
Everyone is different, with different ideas, different styles, different values.what the other people like, you do not necessarily have to like, and do not have to ask other people to like as you do. Respect other people,like what you like of your own, this is ability to accept difference.
遇到和自己想的不一样，我们可能本能的试图要去控制和改变。承认差异，接纳差异甚至好好利用这种差异，才能让自己少了很多烦恼，少了很多抱怨，多了更多包容，当你开始不较真时，你的生活就更轻松幸福。
When we found difference of other people,we may try to control and change the differences in instinct,if we accept differences or even make good use of this difference,we will have less trouble, less complaints,more tolerance,When we start not to be serious,our life will be more relaxed and happy.
5感恩能力Thanksgiving ability
当我们心存感恩时，我们会释怀人生的烦恼，减少负面情绪，减少郁闷，愤怒和内疚。我们可能身在福中不知福，感谢我们拥有的一切，所谓知足常乐，让我们感到幸福。
When we feel grateful,we will release trouble feelings of life, reduce negative emotions, reduce felling of depress, angry and guilty. We may be in the blessing of life without knowing,when we thank for everything we have,so-called content is happiness,will make us feel happy.
无论你身处顺境还是逆境，都要去接受这种变化，活在当下，学会承担。
Whether we are in prosperity or adversity,we can accept the change, live in the moment, learn to take responsibility.
6说话表达能力Speak and expression ability
说话的方式有多重要，有时不一样的语气，口气，不一样的表达方式，结果有很大不同。没有准确表达自己的意思，说话不连贯性，重点不清晰很容易让人误解。
How important of speaking and expression, sometimes different tone,different expression are very different.If do not express the meaning accurately, speak in skipping, and not clear in points will be misunderstood.
比如夫妻家人朋友之间，如果是抱怨的口气，不高兴的语气，或者随意将自己的情绪发泄在对方身上，可能引起纷争，日子就没那么美好。
Such as talking between husband and wife,you and family or friends, if it is with complaining tone, unhappy tone, or freely bad emotions relieving to each other, may have quarrel,and the day will not be so good to get along.
对于陌生人，如果不敢搭讪，害怕交流，有的甚至有恐惧和缺乏信任的心理，不好意思沟通，就少了一个人际机会。
If you can not chat with strangers, afraid of communicate with stranger,even fear and do not trust them,embarrassed to communicate with them,will not have relationship opportunity.
懂得说话是种艺术，能与别人好好说话是种能力，勇敢表达才能成就更好的自己。
Knowing how to speak is a kind of art, can kindly speak with others is a kind of ability, be brave in expression and achieve better of yourself.
7做自己的能力Ability to be yourself
幸福来自内心，做自己才幸福。你可能是内向的，大部分内向的人都想改变自己的性格，外向的人大部分都比较受欢迎，不能否认你可以稍微改变一点点更好，但如果你勉强自己，容易迷失自我。
Happiness comes from heart,be happy to be yourself.You maybe introverted, most of introverted people want to change their own personality to be extrovert, most of the outgoing people are more popular,can not deny that you'd better change a little bit, but if you force yourself, you will lose yourself.
努力完善内心，让自己有自己的特色，发挥自己的长处，不管是怎样的性格，都可以在自己擅长的方面做到很好。
Improve yourself to have your own characteristics, play your own advantages, no matter what kind of personality,can do good in your own field.
祝你拥有
开心的笑容，
开心的表情，
美好的语言，
愉悦的情绪，
幽默而自信，
幸福而快乐。
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