个人是什么样的人就会做什么样的事,他做什么样的事就是什么样的人。-Robert Musil Kleine Prosa. 1930
“The ancestor of every action is a thought.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson , Essays, First Series, 1841
P119 每个行为都源于一种想法。（思想是行动之父！）——爱默生, Essays, First Series,1841
“也许需要放弃态度这一概念。”艾伦・威克,1971
“ALL THAT WE ARE IS THE RESULT OF WHAT WE HAVE THOUGHT.” —BUDDHA, 563 B.C.–483 B.C. DHAMMA-PADA
“THOUGHT IS THE CHILD OF ACTION.” —BENJAMIN DISRAELI, VIVIAN GRAY, 1926
“I HAVE OPINIONS OF MY OWN, STRONG OPINIONS, BUT I DON’T ALWAYS AGREE WITH THEM.” —PRESIDENT GEORGE H. W. BUSH
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“THERE ARE STILL BARRIERS OUT THERE, OFTEN UNCONSCIOUS.” —SENATOR HILLARY RODHAM CLINTON, PRESIDENTIAL CAMPAIGN CONCESSION SPEECH, 2008
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“DO I CONTRADICT MYSELF? VERY WELL THEN I CONTRADICT MYSELF. (I AM LARGE, I CONTAIN MULTITUDES.)” —WALT WHITMAN, SONG OF MYSELF, 1855
P123 我自相矛盾吗?如果是那样的话那非常好。(我很大,可以容纳很多东西。) 一沃尔特・特, Song of Myself,1855
“THINKING IS EASY, ACT- ING DIFFICULT, AND TO PUT ONE’S THOUGHTS INTO ACTION, THE MOST DIFFICULT THING IN THE WORLD.” —GERMAN POET GOETHE, 1749–1832
P125 “思考是简单的,行动是困难的,而让一个人的想法付诸行动则是最难的。”一一德国诗人歌德,1749-1832
“WITHOUT DOUBT IT IS A DELIGHTFUL HARMONY WHEN DOING AND SAYING GO TOGETHER.” —MONTAIGNE, ESSAYS, 1588
P125 “言行一致无疑是一种令人兴奋的和谐”——蒙田, Essays,1588
“IT IS EASIER TO PREACH VIRTUE THAN TO PRACTICE IT.” —LA ROCHEFOUCAULD, MAXIMS, 1665
P125 “鼓吹美德比实践美德容易得多。”-La Rochefoucauld. Maxims, 1665
“思维是行为之子。”一本杰明·迪斯利,维维安·格雷,1826
“NO MAN, FOR ANY CON- SIDERABLE PERIOD, CAN WEAR ONE FACE TO HIM- SELF AND ANOTHER TO THE MULTITUDE WITHOUT FINALLY GETTING BEWIL- DERED AS TO WHICH MAY BE TRUE.” —NATHANIEL HAWTHORNE, 1850
P126“如果有人长时期地对自己一副面孔,而对别人另一副面孔,那么最后他会分不清到底哪个才是真的。”-Nathanial Hawthorne, 1850
“YOU WILL EASILY FIND FOLK TO DO FAVORS IF YOU CULTIVATE THOSE WHO HAVE DONE THEM.” —PUBLILIUS SYRUS, 42 B.C.
P129 不难发现,如果你培养人们做善事他们也会很乐意在这上面帮忙。”Publilius Syrus,公元前42年
“OUR SELF-DEFINITIONS ARE NOT CONSTRUCTED IN OUR HEADS; THEY ARE FORGED BY OUR DEEDS.” —ROBERT MCAFEE BROWN, CREATIVE DISLOCATION: THE MOVEMENT OF GRACE, 1980
P130 “我们的自我定义并不是在自己的头脑中构造的;而是被我们的行为锻造出来的。”Robert Mcafee Brown Creative Dislocation: The Movement of Grace. 1980
“WE DO NOT LOVE PEOPLE SO MUCH FOR THE GOOD THEY HAVE DONE US, AS FOR THE GOOD WE HAVE DONE THEM.” —LEO TOLSTOY, WAR AND PEACE, 1867–1869
P132 “在很大程度上我们并不是因为别人对我们好而喜欢他们,而是因为我们对他们好。”一一列夫・托尔斯泰,《战争与和平》,1867~1869
“WE BECOME JUST BY THE PRACTICE OF JUST ACTIONS, SELF-CONTROLLED BY EXERCISING SELF- CONTROL, AND COURA- GEOUS BY PERFORMING ACTS OF COURAGE.” —ARISTOTLE
P132 “我们由于行使正义而变得正义,由于练习自我控制而变得自我控制,由于行为勇敢而变得勇敢。”亚里士多德
“YOU CAN USE SMALL COMMITMENTS TO MANIPULATE A PERSON’S SELF-IMAGE; YOU CAN USE THEM TO TURN CITIZENS INTO ‘PUBLIC SERVANTS,’ PROSPECTS INTO ‘CUS- TOMERS,’ PRISONERS INTO ‘COLLABORATORS.’” —ROBERT CIALDINI, INFLUENCE, 1988
P133 你可以用很小的承诺来操纵人们的自我形象;你可以用它们将人民变为“公众仆人”，将可能的主顾变为“顾客”，将犯人变为“合作者”。——Robert Cialdini, Influence, 1988
“EVERY TIME YOU MAKE A CHOICE YOU ARE TURNING THE CENTRAL PART OF YOU, THE PART OF YOU THAT CHOOSES, INTO SOMETHING A LITTLE DIFFERENT FROM WHAT IT WAS BEFORE.” —C. S. LEWIS, MERE CHRISTIANITY, 1942
P139 “每次你做一个决定,你就会稍稍改变自己重要的一部分一你所选择的那部分。”C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity, 1942
“I CAN WATCH MYSELF AND MY ACTIONS, JUST LIKE AN OUTSIDER.” —ANNE FRANK, THE DIARY OF A YOUNG GIRL, 1947
P141 “我可以像旁观者一样观察自己和行为。”安妮·弗兰克,《安妮的日记》,1947
“SELF-KNOWLEDGE IS BEST LEARNED, NOT BY CONTEMPLATION, BUT ACTION.” —GOETHE, 1749–1832
P140 “了解自我的最好方式,不是沉思,而是行为。”歌德,1749-1832
“THE FREE EXPRESSION BY OUTWARD SIGNS OF EMOTION INTENSIFIES IT. ON THE OTHER HAND, THE REPRESSION, AS FAR AS POSSIBLE, OF ALL OUT- WARD SIGNS SOFTENS OUR EMOTIONS.” —CHARLES DARWIN, THE EXPRESSION OF THE EMOTIONS IN MAN AND ANIMALS, 1897
P142 自由地表露情绪可以强化情绪。相反,尽可能地压抑情绪则会削弱情绪。”查尔斯・达尔文,《人和动物的情绪表达》,1897
“RATHER AMAZINGLY, 40 YEARS AFTER ITS PUBLICATION, THE THEORY OF COGNITIVE DISSO- NANCE LOOKS AS STRONG AND AS INTERESTING AS EVER.” —SOCIAL PSYCHOLOGIST JACK W. BREHM (1999)
P146 “令人惊讶的是,在其发表40年以后,认知失调理论看起来仍然像以往一样有彩响力,而且还很有趣。”一社会心理学家 Jack W. Brehn(1999)
“IF WE WISH TO CONQUER UNDESIRABLE EMOTIONAL TENDENCIES IN OURSELVES WE MUST . . . COLDBLOOD- EDLY GO THROUGH THE OUTWARD MOTIONS OF THOSE CONTRARY DISPO- SITIONS WE PREFER TO CULTIVATE.” —WILLIAM JAMES, “WHAT IS AN EMOTION?” 1884
P147 “如果要克服心中那令人不快的紧张情绪,我们必须冷血地做出与希望自己培养的性格相悖的行为。”一威廉・詹姆斯 “什么是情绪?”1884
