【标题】“猴子”怎么变绅士

【内容提要】学校教育怎么把调皮的“猴子”变成绅士？你听说过怎么把大象放进冰箱吗？答案是只需要三步：开门，放进大象，关门。这一切只有在你相信的前提下才会成真。我是黛西，由于我相信“境遇”（简书的编辑大人，为了避免涉嫌广告，这是我编的名字）小学，两年后，我发现原本脑子里有及时行乐猴，自控力超级差，而且手眼不协调，经常摔倒的汤姆，在学校的兴趣课程以及“八礼”的熏陶下，变成了一个不怎么摔跤的小足球运动员，有很好的自控力以及独立思考能力。这是魔法吗？不，这是爱。

【鸣谢】承蒙Quankeer、Eva及同学的大力指点和大刀阔斧的修改，本文才得以成型。亦感谢“境遇”小学给我提供机会作这次分享，这是我第一次作英文演讲。当晚在Unique俱乐部就此内容又作了脱稿演讲。非常荣幸地得到Randy的精细点评。

How to Change the “Monkey” to a Gentleman

Have you ever heard the following question: How to put an elephant into a  fridge?

The answer is: 1. Open thedoor；2. Put the elephant in；3. Close the door.

Obviously, there is a precondition for this solution: the thing wouldn’t come true unless you believe it.

I am Daisy, mother of a nine-year-old boy, Tom. When Tom went to Jinyu Primary School two years ago, there was a Carpe Diem monkey lived in his smart brain. Then he had terrible self-control, always enjoyed the pleasure here and now. Even worse was that his body is not harmonious,  you know,  terrible hand-eye co-ordination. He often fell over and walked unsteady, like drunk. He is more like a monkey than my son, not to mention to become a gentleman.

In Jinyu Primary School, there are many interest courses offered after school, as quality education, including arts, chess, football, dance, etc. There are also lots of measures for children to learn social rites. For example, there are 8 rites be emphasized in the school,  including say hello, and say goodbye, and follow relevant courtesy when in playground, dining room, or classroom; at the same time, teachers instruct them to express themselves naturallyand gracefully.

So, because I choose to believe Jinyu Primary School, two years later, I found that Tom had become a little football player, seldom falling over. He got familiar with Gareth Bale. He also has good self-control and independent thinking. When we talked about a book named The Martian, he told me to be careful because there are many dirty words in this novel.

Wow, maybe it’s time for him to know more about Shakespeare or HarryPotter. Above all he is already like a gentleman.

How to change the“monkey” to a gentleman? First to believe, come to Jinyu Primary School, step by step, it comes ture. It is not magic, it’s love.

【后记】这篇文章为什么会这么写？基于三个原因：1.对象；2.内容；3.用途。

首先说对象。对象有学校的部分师生和家长。同时有英国威尔士地区的几位校长。所以在选材上就用了一些英国特别是威尔士的元素。比如提到了球星贝尔、莎士比亚和哈利波特。

重点说内容。分享哪几方面的内容预先有个大致的规划，当然不是特别有心机的那种规划，是根据活动的要求，确定了要分享成长故事、办学理念、对校际交流的看法和期待等等。对应寒冰童鞋的这篇，很显然是讲的办学理念这一块的内容。“境遇”本身是公办学校，不能做得天马行空，在框架内中规中矩的同时做出特色，我觉得他们还是很尽心尽力的。就结合自己孩子的成长讲了这一块。

再说基于用途我作了哪些处理。因为是一个会场的分享，自己又是个英语演讲菜鸟，所以里面统统不用大词，免得自己舌头就绊住了。我自己的英语水平非常诡异但并不特殊，就是所谓哑巴英语。最近半年看见小伙伴们说得很溜，自己也想开口，试了很多次都开不了口。最近读了将近俩月的新概念2，正在好像有点感觉的时候，突然接到这个任务，就吭哧吭哧开始准备了。

根据用途也着重考虑了结构化的叙事方式。先用一个脑筋急转弯开头，引出自己家孩子的成长困惑，点出学校采取的措施里对他极其有利的两个方面——身体和礼节。同时也是学校的特色和亮点。这个叙事结构也容易记忆，不容易脱线，有利于做脱稿。虽然我其实还是会忘，准备时间足够的话应该还是可以的。

其它的如真实，也是准备稿子时我比较看重的方面。为了效果瞎掰一下应该也没什么，只是不是我的风格。而且我的生活说来也很神奇，明明我认为稀松平常，习以为常的事情，会有人觉得光怪陆离，许多事实话实说，不用渲染，反而有时候显得夸张。

幽默也是我想要的，虽然不一定每次都会奏效，存着这个心，不勉强就是了。毕竟基于价值的观点表达才是最有效的。

列位看官，教子系列分享如有共鸣，谢请发言讨论，还可喜欢还可以打赏还可以转发，还可关注哦。共勉~