Don't make decisions when you are weak, or angry.
I learn a lot from this book.i don't want what happened to me happen to my child. i do not have a sense of belonging and worth.Instead, i have a strong sense of inferiority.
I seek worth from outside, not from inner. so i was easily influenced by other people's judgement.But i know i was not born with it, i was developed. My parents never encouge me or focus on solving the problem, they only punish,punish, and punish when i did something wrong.
positive discipline can not only solve the problem with children, but also management. for example, do not punish the employeers, respect them. Focus on how to solve problem, not the results.
how to guide a bad-behaviour child, do not lose your temper, control yourself first, if you want to win the cooperation. do not force others to do something.
when you fight with child, do not intend to solve the problem at once. you can't solve it while you both are in anger. you must retreat, then clam down, talk later when you both feel better. only when one feels better, he can behavier better.
wrong idea:if you want him to do better, you must make him feel worse. thats absurd and ridiculous.
