爱不能只是挂在嘴边，爱是行动。真正的爱应该促进所爱之人的心灵成长。如果你爱一个人，仅仅满足他们的所有需求，过度宠溺，让他们完全依赖你，这看似简单，但最终只会让你感到窒息。因为有一天，你会意识到自己付出了太多，甚至觉得被掏空。然而，这种结果正是由你的初始行为导致的，对你和对方都没有真正的好处。

真正的爱，是教会对方如何独立生存，如何与家人、朋友以及自己建立健康的关系。这是一项艰难的工程，但不能因为困难就选择逃避。

如果你是一个负责任的父母，你不会因为麻烦就忽视孩子的问题。

如果你是一个称职的朋友，你不会因为省事就对朋友的困境视而不见。

同样，爱不是苛责、打击或推卸责任，因为这些只会将你爱的人推向深渊。真正的爱意味着理解、包容、耐心，同时具备足够的自我反思，并不断尝试改进。当我们试图帮助所爱之人改变，不要忘了先审视自身。真正的爱，是彼此的成长，而非单方面的索取或牺牲。

Love cannot just be spoken; it must be acted upon. True love should foster the spiritual growth of the person you love. If you love someone by fulfilling their every desire, spoiling them, and making them completely dependent on you, it may seem easy at first. But one day, you will feel suffocated, realizing that you have sacrificed too much. In the end, this outcome is a direct result of your initial actions, benefiting neither you nor the person you love.

True love is about teaching the other person how to be independent and how to build healthy relationships with family, friends, and themselves. This is a challenging task, but difficulty should not be an excuse to take the easy way out.

If you are a responsible parent, you wouldn’t ignore your child’s problems just because they are troublesome to deal with.

If you are a true friend, you wouldn’t turn a blind eye to your friend’s struggles just because it is more convenient.

Likewise, love is not about criticism, discouragement, or avoiding responsibility—these only push your loved ones deeper into despair. True love requires understanding, tolerance, patience, and continuous self-reflection and effort. When we try to help our loved ones grow, we must not forget to examine ourselves first. Genuine love nurtures the growth of both the giver and the receiver, rather than benefiting only one side.