Obama, the former president of America, participated in Dreamer Forum held on September 20th in New York. PengPai News compiled(编译) his speech and subsequent interview by the Bill Gates. Melinda Gates asked Obama how he and Michel Obama taught their children. "First," Obama replied, "we've been trying to make kids realize that everyone in the world has a responsibility. When you are young, you should take fewer responsibilities on your shoulders. At most, parties are held. When you grow up, your responsibilities will become more and more. To be a responsible person is the most important, and this is the sign of a complete, mature human being. By working hard to improve other people's life, they gain influence. Friendship, caring, compassion, and hard work are values that are passed on to children, as well as the tools they change the world."

Second, different personalities and different talents determine that children will choose different ways of life, but everyone can have the way to create value for society. For example, if you are an engineer, the best way of creating value is making an APP of the mobile phone, instead of going to deliver a speech; your specialty is to take care of people, then you can create value by being a teacher or working in the hospital, rather than do anything else.

Third, learn to persevere. Obama himself used to work in a poor community in Chicago, which taught him a lot. In the poor communities, communities would be better funtioned by building parks, after-school mentoring programs and career training programs, but there were still many problems to be solved. Obama said: "I learnt from the accumulation of experience, but often got impatient, and later realized that the change and progress happen slowly, not as fast as we think they should be. We are easily disappointed and frustrated, and we must have patience as well as insist on it."

Melinda Gates also asked Obama how he looked at the changes in the world and what people could learn from it. Obama said, most human progress and big change, are created by young people, and yet older people has entered the comfort zone or to maintain their status and way of behavior, but they become complacent(固步自封的)." Martin Ruud Kim, for example, began his civil rights campaign at the age of 26. The motivation for young leaders to change is that they keep asking "why not" instead of "why?".

In addition to the Internet and changes in public awareness, Obama says there is a profound discovery: "a lot of sports are based on a story."". Therefore, leaders who want to change the world must learn to tell stories. And if you can't understand the people who support you, such as everything those people go through, including your neighbors, colleagues, friends, and people who are different from you , you won't be able to create an inspiring story. Consequently , "we should learn to listen and learn to think from the others’ point of view.". This understanding will enable you to keep people together strongly." Otherwise, if you can not tell a story that the general public care about , they will say, "I am experiencing a lot of difficulties myself. Why should I care about other people's problems?"

奥巴马如何教育子女

美国前总统奥巴马9月20日参加了在纽约举办的守梦者论坛，澎湃新闻编译了他的演讲和随后比尔·盖茨夫妇对他的采访。梅琳达·盖茨问奥巴马，他和米歇尔·奥巴马是如何教育孩子的。奥巴马回答说，首先，“我们一直试图让孩子们意识到世界上的每个人都有责任。当你小的时候，肩上的责任也很轻，顶多是举办几个聚会；当你长大了，责任也就越来越重。做一个有责任心的人是最最重要的，这才是一个完整的成熟的人类的标志。要通过努力工作来改善他人生活，这样才能获得影响力。友爱、关心他人、有同情心和努力刻苦，是传递给孩子们的价值观，也是他们改变世界的工具。”

其次，不同的性格、不同的特长注定了孩子们会选择不同的人生道路，但每个人都有为社会创造价值的方式。比如，如果你是个工程师，最好的创造价值的方式是做一个手机APP，而不是去演讲；你的特长是照顾人，那你可以通过当老师或在医院工作来创造价值，而不是干别的。

第三，学会坚持。奥巴马自己曾经在芝加哥的贫穷社区工作，这段经历教会他很多东西。在穷人的社区内，通过建立公园、为孩子们做课后辅导项目和职业培训项目，社区会好转起来，但是过程中仍然有很多问题要解决。奥巴马说：“我从中学习，不断积累经验，也经常会不耐烦，后来才意识到变化和进步是慢慢发生的，不像我们想得那么快，很容易失望和受挫，我们要有耐心，要坚持。”

梅琳达·盖茨还问奥巴马，他如何看待世界的变化，以及人们可以从中学到什么。奥巴马回答说，大多数人类的进步和大的变革，都是由年轻人创造的，而年龄大一点的人，“已经进入了舒适圈或要极力维护他们的地位和行为方式，反而固步自封。”比如马丁·路德·金在26岁时就开始发起民权运动。促使青年领袖们做出改变的动力是，他们会不断去问“为什么不呢”，而不是问“为什么要做这件事”。

除了互联网以及公众意识的变化之外，奥巴马说，还有一点他认为意义很深远的发现是，“很多的运动都起源于一个故事”。因此，想要改变世界的领导者，要学会讲故事。而如果你不能理解支持你的人，比如邻居、同事、朋友以及和你不同的人们所经历的一切，你就没有办法创造出一个打动人心的故事。所以，“我们要学会倾听，学会站在别人的角度考虑问题。这种理解，才能让你把大家紧密团结在一起。”否则，如果不能讲出一个普通大众关心的故事，他们会说，我自己也在经历很多困难，为什么要关心别人的问题？