words（这一章几个生词非常高频，如flee，tactic，shift等，摘录如下）

Shift = change, turn

Eg: This shift in perspective opened the door for me to start experimenting with rejection even more.

Eg: This was an unexpected turn of events.

Eg: troops retreated(后退) in order to regroup, consolidate their forces, or shift to a better tactical position.

Flee

逃离;逃避；If you flee from something or someone, or flee a person or thing, you escape from them.

Eg: I wanted to see what would happen if instead of fleeing the scene of a rejection, I would stick around to find out what would happen next.

Eg: The defenseless fleeing soldiers have their backs turned to the enemy, making them vulnerable targets.

Eg: if you get turned down for a job, one option is to flee.

造句：Lai Changxing fled to America to avoid trail.

Veteran

有经验的人;老手；You use veteran to refer to someone who has been involved in a particular activity for a long time.

Eg: I’d become a rejection veteran by this time.

造句：My teammates are all veterans in the area of investment.

Thrill

If something gives you a thrill, it gives you a sudden feeling of great excitement, pleasure, or fear.

Eg: he gushed, genuinely thrilled at the new addition to her yard.

Initially= at first

Eg: in the past, when I was rejected, I had automatically assumed that I’d done something wrong. But by spending a little more time with the man who initially turned me down, I ‘d discovered that what I was offering simply didn’t fit his situation.

Logical和emotional 一对反义词

Eg: There is a reason behind every decision that people make, whether it’s logical and well thought or emotional and spur of the moment.

造句：When I discussed issues with my colleagues, my perspective was shifted from emotional to logical.

Upside

a positive aspect/ an upward trend (as of prices)

Eg：there’s only an upside to asking ”why”.

Story

说房子的“层”用 storey 或 story 都可以，在英国两种形式都用，在美国只用 story。storey 的复数形式是 storeys，story 的复数形式是 stories。说“几层的”用……storeyed 或...storied，...storey 或...story 都可以，如a three-storeyed house 和 a three-storied house，a three-storey house 和 a three-story house。

Tactic

战术;策略;招数；Tactics are the methods that you choose to use in order to achieve what you want in a particular situation.

Eg: So I switched tactics.

Eg: troops retreated(后退) in order to regroup, consolidate their forces, or shift to a better tactical position.

Maneuver（来源于法语）他的名词义和tactic相近

Eg：That’s obvious to me that there is often a lot more room to maneuver around a no than I’d ever realized.

Eg：Now that I was deep into my rejection journey and far savvier about how to maneuver through a no to land somewhere interesting, if felt like the right time to try.

Customize

定制;定做;改制；If you customize something, you change its appearance or features to suit your tastes or needs

这个词就是觉得很神奇，因为自己一直不知道定制怎么说…

Eg: But he said that if I brought in my own flavoring, he would gladly customize the ice cream for me.

Eg: The worker in success suggested me that they can customize the lesson for me.

关于学习的一段话

At about the halfway point of my 100 days, my fear of rejection was transforming into something more like curiosity. This shift in perspective opened the door for me to start experimenting with rejection even more. I wanted to poke and study rejection from different sides. And the first thing I wanted to explore was finding out what could happen after I received a no.

Guiding questions

1. How can asking ”why” help us after being rejected?

    Asking why tended to clear up any misunderstanding on the rejectee’s part about the rejecter’s motivations. And knowing the reason behind a rejection can help dissipate, or even dissolve, any of the pain one might feel otherwise.

2. What’s the meaning of ”retreat, don’t run”? Did you once succeed in landing a yes by implementing the retreating strategy? Please share with us.

    Retreat, reassess and try a new approach.

    Once I negotiated with other people, I want him to accept all the mistakes I pointed at him, but he has his own reason to strive for his rights. At last I gave up a portion of mine to make an agreement with him.

3. Please use three sentences to summarize the author’s experience of asking for ice cream with the ”Thai Torture” flavor.

    First, he asked the store clerk to make him ice cream with the ”Thai Torture” flavor. Hearing the no answer, he started asking more questions like if they had any spicy flavors. At last he tried some samples of Amy’s wacky bacon-and-mint-flavored ice cream, which surely tasted better than Thai Torture would have.