我们总觉得有人在看我们，尤其当我们外表或者行为和平常不一致，比如平时不化妆，今天突然化了妆；平时衣着黑白灰色调，今天突然穿了一件色彩鲜艳的衣服，这一天我们都会觉得不自在。其实我们并没有那么多观众。
We feel like that there is always someone who supervises us, especially when we behave differently. For instance, you make up while you never did it before; you prefer cold-color wearing, while you are on a red coat today. As a result, you feel uncomfortable the whole day. You become extremely quite in case someone asks about your appearance.
这一方面会使我们活得很累，因为我们脑补出了更多的关注，一旦我们活在别人的目光里，压力就会相应产生，想想普通人的生活和明星的生活，大抵就懂了。
Illusion Of Transparency makes us more stressful since we imagine more attention from others. Once we live in others’ eyes, stress and anxiety will emerge. The difference between ordinary people and celebrity can tell the truth.
但是这也有它积极的一面。因为我们总觉得有人在“监视”我们，所以我们会尽量规范自己的行为，这也是为什么在公共场合犯错的几率就比在人少的地方小很多，比如犯罪或者偷偷的随手扔个垃圾就很容易发生在人少的地方。
Nevertheless, it has positive impact. We will regulate our behavior because of this virtual supervision. This is one of the reasons why crime or misbehavior happens more frequently in places with few people.
还有我们发朋友圈立目标的行为，其实有多少人真正在意我们是否坚持下来或者是否达成目标呢？但是公开之后自己就觉得如果达不成这个目标很丢人。
It is also the same with the flags we set in the moments of Wechat. How many people will remember what we said and whether we achieve it or not? Few, actually. We feel shame if we fail to do it so it is like a kind of power which pushes ourselves forward.
如果能把当地人的目光屏蔽掉，那我们还会入乡随俗吗？
If the attention of locals can be blocked, will we do as the Romans do?
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