鲁文按：
自我实现者的特征，其实可以从一些基本的逻辑来进行推演其人格的完整性表现：
他的幸福，来源于自身，所以
1）内向，向内（M5-马斯洛第5条）
2）善于感知身边的美和快乐（M7）
3）对外界扰乱，具有一种超越性（M2，M8，M15）
4）能用善意对待不好的事物（M9，你用善意看世界，世界亦以善意待你）
5）不会迷己逐物（M3）
6）更有平等心（M11）
7）有能力让身边的人感到愉悦（M4，M6）
8）让自己变得更简单（M14，M16）
9）以上这些都是源于他的智慧和认知（M1，M12，M13）
10）朋友不多，但都是高质量的（M10）
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[中英互译] 马斯洛关于自我实现者的16个特征
1.他们的判断力超乎常人，对事情观察得很透彻，只根据现在所发生的一些事，常常就能够正确地预测将来事情会如何演变。
Self-actualized people show better judgement than ordinaries. Based on the what happens now, they will foresee the future progress correctly.
2.他们能够接纳自己、接纳别人，也能接受所处的环境。无论在顺境或逆境之中，他们能安之若命，处之泰然。虽然他们不见得喜欢现状，但他们会先接受这个不完美的现实（不会抱怨为何只有半杯水），然后负起责任改善现状。
They accept themselves, others and circumstances. They embrace the unknown and the ambiguous no matter adversity or prosperity, they are not threatened or afraid of it; instead, they accept it, are comfortable with it and are often attracted by it. Afterwards they take responsible to improve the current situation.
3.他们单纯、自然而无伪。他们对名利没有强烈的需求，因而不会戴上面具，企图讨好别人。有一句话说：“伟大的人永远是单纯的。”我相信，伟人的脑子里满有智慧，但常保一颗单纯善良的心。
They are simple, natural and honesty. They are not caring for the wealth and fame so much to avoid pleasing others only. There is one quote: "Great man is always simple" . I believe the great man keeps full wisdom with a simple and kind heart.
4.他们对人生怀有使命感，因而常把精力用来解决与众人有关的问题。他们也较不以自我为中心，不会单顾自己的事。
They have a strong sense of purpose for life and spend time to resolve public issues. They are not self-centered and only care for themselves.
5.他们享受独居的喜悦，也能享受群居的快乐。他们喜欢有独处的时间来面对自己、充实自己。
They enjoy the joy of solitude and group living both. They do like spend time alone to talk to and fulfill themselves.
6.他们不依靠别人满足自己安全感的需要。他们像是个满溢的福杯，喜乐有余，常常愿意与人分享自己，却不太需要向别人收取什么。
They fulfill safety needs not depending on others. They are like full cups sufficient happiness and joy, willing to share themselves without any payback.
7.他们懂得欣赏简单的事物，能从一粒细砂想见天堂，他们像天真好奇的小孩一般，能不断地从最平常的生活经验中找到新的乐趣，从平凡之中领略人生的美。
They are grateful and do not take their blessings for granted, and by doing so, maintain a fresh sense of wonder towards the universe.
"Self-actualizing people have the wonderful capacity to appreciate again and again, freshly and naively, the basic goods of life, with awe, pleasure, wonder, and even ecstasy."
8.他们当中有许多人曾经历过 “天人合一” 的宗教经验。
Most of them have ever the experience of "Harmony between Man and Nature".
9.虽然看到人类有很多丑陋的劣根性，他们却仍满有悲天悯人之心、民胞物与之爱，能从丑陋之中看到别人善良可爱的一面。
They understand: "There are no perfect human beings! Persons can be found who are good, very good indeed, in fact, great. [...] And yet these very same people can at times be boring, irritating, petulant, selfish, angry, or depressed. To avoid disillusionment with human nature, we must first give up our illusions about it."
10.他们的朋友或许不是很多，然而所建立的关系，却比常人深入。他们可能有许多淡如水的君子之交，素未谋面，却彼此心仪，灵犀相通。
They share deep relationships with a few, but also feel identification and affection towards the entire human race.
11.他们比较民主，懂得尊重不同阶层、不同种族、不同背景的人，以平等和爱心相待。
They tend to be more kind and friendly almost everyone of suitable charterer regardless of class, education, political belief, race, or color with greater love and more perfect identification.
12.他们有智慧明辨是非，不会像一般人用绝对二分法（“不是好就是坏”或“黑人都是懒惰鬼”）分类判断。
they deliberate and make their own decisions, selecting what they see as good, and rejecting what they see as bad. They neither accept all, like a sheep, nor reject all, like the average rebel.
13.他们说话含有哲理，也常有诙而不谑的幽默。
They talk wisely with a good sense of humor.
14.他们心思单纯，像天真的小孩，极具创造性。他们真情流露，欢乐时高歌，悲伤时落泪，与那些喜怒不形于色，喜好“权术”、“控制”、“喜怒不形于色”的人截然不同。
They are simple with high creativeness. They are true man with true characteristics. They sing in happy time and cry in sad time. They are totally different with those possessive persons with "Poke-face".
15.他们的衣着、生活习惯、方式、处世为人的态度，看起来比较传统，保守，然而，他们的心态开明，在必要时能超越文化与传统的束缚。
They look conservative and conventional with their dressing, life styles and the way how to behave, however they are open-minded and individualized rather than being dictated by culture and society.
16.他们也会犯一些天真的错误，当他们对真善美执著起来时，会对其他琐事心不在焉。例如爱迪生有一次做研究太过专心，竟然忘了自己是否吃过饭，朋友戏弄他，说他吃过了，他信以为真，拍拍肚皮，满足地回到实验室继续工作。
They make some naive mistakes because they don't pay attention to small things. Instead they focus on big things like truth, beauty and virtue.
据马斯洛的估计，世上大概只有１％的人，最后能成长到上述这种“不惑”、“知天命”、“耳顺”、“随心所欲而不逾距”、圆融逍遥、充满智慧的人生境界。
我不敢期望每个人都能达到这个境界，然而我相信，当我们愈趋近这种境界时，我们的人生会愈有喜乐、愈有意义。
成长是必须付代价的，因为成长永远包含着冒险、面对未知、尝试新经验、扩展个人的极限与改变。若不必成长，我们就不用改变自己，不用面对未知的危险，更不用花心神面对生活的挑战，从各种选择中做出新的决定。
Maslow estimated only 1% of population in this world will grow to such pinnacle of Self-Actualization with full of wisdom.
I don't think everyone will reach it, however our life will be happier and more meaningful when closing to it.
growing pains because there are always adventures, uncertainties, new experience, maximization of potential, and changes along the journey. No need to change yourself, no need to face uncertainties, no need to waste time tackle the challenges and make new decisions if you don't intend to grow up.
作者：Thinkpolo
链接：https://www.jianshu.com/p/1a3d7cfa270c
