人生如同打牌，拿到好牌不一定会赢，而拿到烂牌也不一定会输。这其中的玄妙就在于我们如何看待手中的牌，如何做出选择。
We all get dealt cards . Some of us get better cards than others . And while it's easy to get hung up on our cards ,and feel we got screwed over , the real game lies in the choices we make with those cards ,the risks we decide to take ,and the consequences we choose to live with .
总是抱着“受害人的心理”，总感觉受伤的为什么总是我，总感觉这世界待我不公，始终是在怨天尤人，抱怨外部环境，抱怨别人伤害自己。只能让自己越陷越深，看不到问题。不论境遇如何，承担责任，意味着把精力放在自己可以把控的范围。
整本书的精要就在于把F*ck要放对位置，放在自己的可控范围内，而不是放在不可控的外部事件上。改变原有的看待问题的角度，衡量自我的标准，这种转变注定痛苦，Do or do not ,there is no "how" .
These are neccessay ,though painful ,side effects of choosing to place your fucks elsewhere , in a place far more important and more worthy of your energies .
