Number one :Don't be multitask(不要三心二意)，It mean that be present;

Number two :Don't pontificate(不要好为人师)，

    if you want to state you opinion and auquire others not to reply ,you just write a blog! You need to enter every conversation assuming that you have something to learn! 

    The famed therapist M.Scott Peck said: the true listening requires a setting aside of one !(真正的倾听者要把自己放在一边)

     Bill Nye:"Every will ever meet knows something that you don't." 

Number three :Use open-ended questions(开放的话题，如记者提问)

Number four:Go with the flow!

Number five:If you don't know ,say you don't know !

Number eight :stay out of the weeds(少说废话)！

Number night：Listen！

Calvin Coolidge, "No men ever listened his way out of job！

Number ten : Be brief!(简明扼要)

1.不要三心二意；2.不要好为人师；3.使用开放性的问题；4. 顺其自然；5. 如果你不知道，你就说你不知道；6. 不要把自己的经历和别人比较7.别重复自己的话；8.少说废话；9.认真倾听；10.简明扼要。