Problem-Solving needs time.
生活中,我们一遇到问题,就想立马找到解决办法,当问题迟迟得不到解决时,我们不想再忍受解决问题时的痛苦和不适时,我们就会两手一摊,“我也无能为力了”。其实这也是一种延迟满足的行为。解决办法就好比一种满足,人们不能够一直探索找到问题的解决办法就用“我也无能为力了”来实现这种满足。
还有一种心理就是想当然的以为问题自己会走开,这类人趋向于忽略问题,认为问题不存在,以为问题真的就不存在了,其实这样只会让问题越来越严重。这也是延迟满足的一种现象。“Confronting problems is painful. To willingly confront a priblem early, before we are forced to confront it by circumstance, means to put aside something pleasant or less painful for smething more painful.”
have the the foggiest idea of :完全不知道
defect:缺点,不足
unfailing:始终如一的,不倦的
resignedly:听天由命的
hassel困难,麻烦
dead broke:身无分文的