亲爱的朋友们，你们想快点提拔吗？想快点有成绩吗？想快点变美？变瘦变厉害吗？

是的，我想，所有的事情，我都想要很快得到结果。

小时候作为学生，我阅读速度快，写字快，写作业快，考试也快，这个快，让我在别人都觉得时间紧迫的公务员考试中，轻松应对，游刃有余。

因为一直追求快，以前，对我而言，我甚至觉得一年都已经很长了，工作后，我总要很快表现，很快惊艳他人，很快脱颖而出，1年2年，我换了一个单位，1年2年，我又换了一个单位，我以为很快就会提拔了吧，1年2年3年，让我怀疑人生，到了第8年，我又换了一个单位，然后我又从头开始，1年2年3年，距离毕业已经快15年，我还没有提拔。

这到底发生了什么？我总以为很多事情就是半年一载的事情，我总以为我不会在一个单位在一个地方待太久，没想到我在大亚湾待了超过12年，太可怕了，更可怕的是，我可能要一直待下去。

我的思维定式就是把人生当作短跑，我总以为很多事情很快就可以拿到结果，很快就能拿到结果，然而，事实不是这样的。我总会迫不及待地表现，迫不及待地想要使出全力。

在工作中是这样，在生活中也是，10年前，我认识了一帮朋友，一起打羽毛球一起聊天一起吃饭，有一天我怀孕了，这一切不得不停下来，可是两个多月后，这个孩子没有了，我住院了，她们来看我，我又迫不及待地想要和大家待在一起，生怕因为一段时间没玩，大家疏远了。我的姐姐，当时来看我，她说，好的朋友，以后再一起玩也是可以的，生活是可以慢下来的，为什么非在这一时呢？我若有所悟，后来我生了第一个孩子，第二个孩子，好多年没联系了，当我今年重新拿起羽毛球拍的时候，我发现那种感觉跟十年前并没有太多的不同。

而那帮朋友一直都还在。

我还是会忍不住想要快，只是我会时刻提醒自己，尤其当我发现离退休还有20年时，我之前以为人生已经过了很久的想法是错的，人生是长跑，工作也是，如果总是一直蓄力一直冲刺，随时都会坚持不住而中断。所以需要时不时放慢脚步，时不时充电补给，偶尔还可以休息停顿，这样的话，就不会纠结于每一天的小事，甚至于不会纠结于这一年甚至几年的无所作为。当然我还是会很快地完成工作，因为我要慢慢地享受生活，以慢的心态去看待变幻万千的世界和生活，不再纠结于领导对我印象不好，不再受困于同事对我评价不高，也不会再急急忙忙地去和朋友聚会，因为这些，在时间面前都会淡去。

快即是慢，慢即是快，你，听懂了吗？

Dear friends, do you want to advance quickly? Do you want to achieve success quickly? Do you want to become beautiful and slim quickly? Do you want to become more powerful quickly?

Yes, I suppose so. I want everything to have a quick resolution.

As a student when I was young, I read and wrote quickly, completed my homework quickly, and took exams quickly, which made me able to handle the civil service examination easily and effortlessly when others felt time was tight.

Because I always pursued speed, in the past, I even felt that a year was already quite long for me. After working, I always wanted to show my abilities quickly, impress others quickly, stand out quickly, and be promoted quickly. In 1 or 2 years, I changed jobs, and in 1 or 2 years, I changed jobs again. I thought that I would be promoted soon, but 1 or 2 or 3 years passed, and I began to doubt . By the 8th year, I had changed jobs again, and I had to start from the beginning again. 1 or 2 or 3 years passed, and it was almost 15 years since I graduated, but I had not been promoted yet.

What exactly happened? I always thought that many things were just a matter of six months or a year, and I always thought I wouldn't stay in one place or organization for too long. But I've been in DayaBay for over 12 years, which is terrifying. What's even more terrifying is that I may have to stay here for the rest of my life.

My mindset has always been to treat life as a short race, and I always thought that many things could be accomplished quickly, very quickly, but that is not the case. I am always impatient to show off and to exert my full effort.

It's the same in work and in life. Ten years ago, I met a group of friends who played badminton together, chatted and had meals together. One day, I got pregnant and everything had to stop. But two months later, the baby was gone and I was hospitalized. They came to see me and I was eager to be with them again, afraid that because I hadn't played for a while, they would have grown distant. My sister came to see me at the time and said, "Good friends can always play together later. Life can be slowed down. Why rush it at this moment?" I understood what she meant, and later when I had my first child and the second child, I hadn't been in touch with them for many years. But when I picked up my badminton racket again this year, I found that the feeling was not much different from ten years ago.

And those friends are still there.

I still can't help wanting to move fast, but I will constantly remind myself, especially when I realize that there are still 20 years until my retirement, my previous belief that my life had passed by a long time ago was wrong. Life is a marathon, and so is work. If I always keep my energy up and sprint all the time, I will eventually give up and stop at any moment. So I need to slow down from time to time, recharge and refuel, and occasionally take a break. In this way, I won't be bothered by everyday trivialities, and even won't be bothered by my lack of achievements in a year or even several years. Of course, I will still finish my work quickly, because I want to slowly enjoy life and view the ever-changing world and life with a slow mindset. I will no longer be bothered by the fact that my boss has a bad impression of me, nor will I be trapped by the fact that my colleagues have a low opinion of me. I will no longer rush to meet my friends, because all these will fade away in the face of time.

Fast is slowness, and slowness is fast. Do you understand?